[Andy1087]

Hi Everyone,

Has anyone gotten their non-smoking wife or GF started smoking? My wife does not smoke and never has as far as I know. I often wish she would start smoking at least once in a while to share the habit with. I realize that could be a slippery slope as it she did try it and liked it she might not be able to control it like I do. That being said I would love seeing her smoking a 120. I would be happy even if she would start vaping like I have. I would ask her to try it, but I know it probably would not go well and end up being a fight.

Andrew

[Wayne2045]

I would not encourage a non-smoker to start. Yes you risk starting a huge fight.

And if she does start smoking, you've just introduced her to a unhealthy habit

[ohiophil]

I agree with Wayne. If someone wants to start smoking it should be their own decision. Not because someone else thinks it’s a good idea or it looks cool.

[Jerimiah]

Smoking is a personal choice and asking your wife to pick up the habit just to please you is not okay.

[burge]

ditto for all the comments above. Don't start if you don't have too. You have to ask what if your wife dies of a smoking related illness how would you feel?

[StatisticsJason]

If smoking was so important to you then you should have married a smoker in the first place. It is unethical for you to get her to smoke for your personal pleasure.

[Beth74]

My husband and I were both smokers when we met. Given how much I smoked I can’t imagine he would have married me if he weren’t a smoker too. But I wouldn’t recommend trying to get somebody to start.

[SamanthaD]

What happens when the novelty of this wears off?Trying to encourage a non smoking spouse to smoke is a lousy idea.

[Beth74]

Originally Posted by SamanthaD What happens when the novelty of this wears off?Trying to encourage a non smoking spouse to smoke is a lousy idea.

My husband and I both quit a few years back. I stayed quit for 2 years before I started again. After I started again he was still quit and I did everything I could to not tempt him - only smoked outside the house (and froze my butt off!) and didn’t smoke when we were in the car together. He started back up again about 6 months after I did even with me trying to help him stay quit.

[StatisticsJason]

Originally Posted by Beth74 My husband and I were both smokers when we met. Given how much I smoked I can’t imagine he would have married me if he weren’t a smoker too. But I wouldn’t recommend trying to get somebody to start.

Oh there are definitely some non-smoking guys out there who wouldn't mind your heavy smoking or would even like it.