[smokerAA]

Hi,

I recently started dating a girl who asked me to try to quit smoking. I told her that I would, and I don't smoke when she's around. But on the days I'm not with her until late at night, I smoke one in the morning.

I shower, chew gum, brush my teeth, get all the smell out before I see her. But she says she can smell it when I blow air out of my nose as I'm kissing her. Is it possible to have the smell linger around and have it come out from my nostrils (internal) even if my breath/clothes smell fine? How long does it last? The days I don't smoke she says she can't smell anything.

[bensonpeter4]

Dating a non-smoker is tough. Why did you tell her you were going to stop in the first place? There's a giant divide between smokers and non-smokers, and in my opinion, it's stupid. If she really wants to date you, she should just deal with it.

[Chief Smoker]

Here's the deal, I've dated people that don't smoke but If they can't handle the fact that you do and complain about smelling smoke on your breath, clothes, car..ect you should either tell her to deal with it and don't complain or get out of that relationship.

It's difficult for smokers to date b/c some people have a real problem with smoking. My brother-in-law for example can detect smoke on someone a mile away.

There are so many other important things that you need to have a strong relationship, if smelling smoke on you is a problem run, don't walk

[emmaparker]

You'd better decide whether you want to quit or not. If you want to go on smoking, just throw the facts on the table. Tell her that you are not ready to quit right now. But you both can find a solution - you told that you din't smoke in her presence. So you have partially met her needs. The next step should be hers. If she really wants to stay with you, she will accept the fact that sometimes you can smoke, but only when she is not there. And who knows, may be with time you will be able to quit cold turkey. Good luck, pal!

P.S. Here is the selfishness of non-smokers.

[Petr_4]

Better quit your girlfriend dude. I don't like relationships with people can't accept others.

[Jackalope]

If you really like her and you think shes the "one", don't give up yet. Try Febreeze or start lighting incense while you try to "tone" down the smoking habit. When you love someone, you should try hard. Without pain you get no gain.

[Jacki]

A smoker and a nonsmoker; I like referring to this as a mixed couple! But like all relationships, it takes effort from both to make it work. I recently married a non-smoker, so I got a crash course in this. Making such a relationship work requires a lot of courtesy on the smoker's part, and tolerance on the non-smoker's part. Non-smokers who enter a relationship with a smoker, thinking that they are going to convert him or her, are making a mistake.